Never Wanted kiddos .After being abused, I always thought I was too selfish for kids. Kids require attention, love and self sacrifice which I did not know if any of that was possible for me.
I am sure so many survivors have those same fears and inhibitions. How are we capable of raising babies when we were not given the proper tools?
The thing is we ARE the tool and we are not our abusers. Even if we are taught or teach ourselves, we do not have to repeat our predators hurting us. We have our own choices and our own love to give to our babies.
The child abuse cycle ends with me, and you and no parent is perfect. Not even the "normal" ones so we got this parenting thing and we are capable of loving ourselves and our children. ❤